FAITH-BASED MARRIAGE & TRUST REPAIR
Trust Builders Table
Christian Husbands Rebuilding Trust After Betrayal
rebuild trust with
your hurting wife
create connection
that
endures
You Want to Repair Your Marriage After Betrayal
You’ve tried reassuring your betrayed wife that you’re faithful now. You’ve tried to comfort her in her pain. Maybe you’ve tried to help her heal from betrayal trauma.
But your attempts don’t seem to work, and you don’t want to lose your wife.
YOU STILL WANT A FUTURE WITH HER
- You don’t just want the conflict to stop. You want to feel close to your wife again
- You want to be able to sit beside her without feeling the distance between you
- You want her to see more than your betrayal when she looks at you
But you’re realizing that you don’t know what it takes to rebuild trust.
REFRAMING THE PROBLEM
What Works After Sexual Betrayal
In the aftermath of betrayal, if you constantly insist that your wife can now trust you, she might feel she’s being pressured to trust before trust has had a chance to rebuild organically.
The goal isn’t to get her pain to settle down faster. The work of rebuilding trust is to become the kind of husband who makes safety possible again.
Not just: “Please believe me”
But: empathy that sees her pain and doesn’t pressure her to heal faster.
Not: “I’m really trying.”
But: consistency that lasts beyond the crisis.
I’m creating Trust Builders Table to give you the tools you need to practice the kind of trust-building that does more than help you hold on to your wife, but helps you repair the damage and rebuild a stronger marriage.
Trust Builder's Roadmap
I’m creating Trust Builders Table as a guided membership for Christian husbands to provide you with:
a guided path through trust-building so you always know what to do next
focused teaching on the five pillars of rebuilding trust and connection
practical tools and exercises that keep you moving forward in the process, personally and relationally
community-based support for becoming a safe, steady, and trustworthy husband over time
feedback from me along the way
You can eliminate confusion and start learning how to rebuild trust with clarity.
Get the Founding Member Invitation
Trust Builders Table will open first to a small group of founding members who will be invited to join at the beginning, walk through the first version of the membership, and help shape what it becomes over time.
As a founding member, you’ll get:
a seat at the table before regular enrollment opens
special founding member pricing for as long as you remain a member
the opportunity to help shape the membership from the beginning
Besides helping you restore your marriage, you”ll be part of a meaningful journey that will help those who come after you.
to receive the invitation when enrollment opens.
Who It’s For
Because Trust Builders Table includes the resources you’ll need to rebuild trust and connection after betrayal, it’s for you whether discovery happened a few weeks ago or you have been trying to rebuild trust for some time.
Trust Builders Table is for you if you:
want to be a true rebuilder who builds not only trust but a stronger foundation
are a Christian and you want to integrate your faith and spiritual life
desire to become a husband who is emotionally safe and helps his wife heal
grow your empathy skills so you can establish a deeper connection that endures
need trust-building support that is healthy, non-shaming, empathetic, and trauma-informed
If that’s you, Trust Builders Table is being created to give you a place with a guided path to learn the work of rebuilding trust and connection without shame, confusion, or pressure.
Why I'm Creating Trust Builders Table
Standing Strong Project exists to help Christians become stronger and whole in the places where addiction and betrayal have done damage. I’ve been on both sides of the story, and I know the repair process can be confusing.
I’m creating Trust Builders Table because many Christian husbands genuinely want to repair their marriage after betrayal and help their wives heal, but they don’t what it takes or how to practice it consistently.
friend,
rebuilding trust is a skillset that can be learned. This membership is being built to give you the tools and support you need as you learn, grow, and rebuild.
Anita Kragelund Thimm
Founder of Standing Strong Project, PSAP, PMAP, BTRL.
My work within trust-building combines a Christian worldview with betrayal trauma-informed support, emotional growth, and practical trust-building tools.
What We Work Through
Trust Builders Table is built on five pillars of repair after betrayal:
Building Trust
Learn how to create safety and become a husband your wife can depend on.
Shame Work
Work through shame, self-protection, shame-based responses
Connection & Empathy
Grow in empathy and build emotional connection
Faith & Spirituality
Let Christian teachings shape your mindset and repair work
Marriage & Sexuality
A new foundation through safety, vulnerablity, and compassion.
When you join, there will be trust-building material ready for you, so you can begin rebuilding from day 1.
Each month, Trust Builders Table will focus on a specific theme within one of these five areas. You’ll have:
An instructional video to view at your own pacing
Written in-depth resources to help you grow and rebuild.
Exercises that translate what you learn into action (challenges, reflection prompts, guided prayers, etc.)
Extra resources i.e. practical guides, bible study suggestions, and action plans to help you stay on track.
And, of course, you’ll have access to ongoing support in the husband community and personal feedback on your progress from me.
to make sure you receive your founding member invitation.
FAQ
Frequently Asked Questions
Why should I choose a membership for building trust?
Because rebuilding trust after betrayal is not a one-time lesson. It is an ongoing process that requires repeated practice, deeper understanding, emotional growth, and support over time.
A course or a book can teach you important principles, but a membership gives you a guided place to keep working through them as real-life situations arise. Trust Builders Table is designed to help you not only learn and stay focused, but continue practicing trust-building over time with ongoing feedback.
Is the membership beginner or intermediate level?
Trust Builders Table is designed for both.
If you are early in the process, it will help you understand what rebuilding trust requires and give you a clear path to begin. If you have already been working on trust repair for some time, it will help you strengthen the areas where you still get stuck, keep practicing trust-building with more consistency, and improve skills such as empathy with in-depth work.
Is this only for husbands who betrayed their wife through pornography?
No. You are welcome to join if you are a Christian husband rebuilding trust after sexual betrayal, even if pornography was not the only issue or the primary issue.
That said, my work primarily serves men who struggle with, or have struggled with, pornography addiction. Because of that, material that speaks directly to sexual betrayal will be framed around hidden pornography use, including how it affects trust in marriage.
If your betrayal story includes other forms of sexual sin or unwanted sexual behavior, you may still find the trust-building work deeply relevant. After all, it’s common for hidden pornography addiction to be connected with other forms of sexual betrayal, so the membership will address trust repair in a way that goes beyond the specific type of sexual betrayal.
If you betrayed your wife primarily in other ways, you may simply need to adapt some examples and content to your own situation.
Do I need to be a Christian to join?
Yes. Trust Builders Table is intentionally faith-based and grounded in biblical truth. It’s created for Christians who believe the Bible is the Word of God, and Scripture, prayer, and spiritual reflection are woven into the learning experience as important tools in the rebuilding process.
That doesn’t mean you’re expected to know the entire Bible or feel especially close to God. You’re welcome to wrestle with questions of faith, and several lessons speak directly to the struggles Christians face when shame, sexual sin, and marital issues collide with the spiritual life.
However, because of the importance of protecting the integrity of the membership and the Christian community within it, you do need to come with a sincere heart to grow in relationship with God and to follow Him. Even if, at this point, you may not know entirely how to get there.
Do I need to be fully sober before joining?
You do not need to be perfect before joining, but you do need to be serious about honesty, responsibility, and recovery.
If you are still struggling with pornography or other unwanted sexual behavior, you are welcome here, but you need to understand that you cannot rebuild trust while continuing the same patterns that broke it.
Trust Builders Table can support your trust-building work, but it is not a replacement for personal recovery. If addiction is still active in your life, you will need to prioritize getting the right help for that alongside the work of rebuilding your marriage.
Will joining Trust Builders Table help me save my marriage?
No program or membership can honestly promise to save your marriage. Your wife’s healing, choices, and timeline are not something you can control.
But Trust Builders Table is created to help you practice the kind of honesty, responsibility, emotional steadiness, empathy, and consistency that rebuilding trust requires. While it cannot guarantee the outcome of your marriage, it provides you with the tools, guidance, and support to become a husband who is a true rebuilder.
Is the membership an alternative to couples therapy?
Trust Builders Table is not couples therapy, marriage counseling, or a replacement for therapy that specializes in the aftermath of betrayal.
Trust Builders Table is for the husband who has betrayed his wife to help him rebuild trust, not the couple in crisis because of the betrayal. The betrayed wife will still need her own healing journey, the husband will need his own personal recovery journey, and sometimes the couple will need personalized help from a specialized therapist.
That said, marriages can both survive and thrive if both parties do their individual work and husbands learn to practice the trust-building needed to establish relational safety. I know, because I have seen it happen again and again, and this is where Trust Builders Table comes in.
You may choose to have a seat at Trust Builders Table as an ongoing trust-building resource next to therapy with your wife. If you do, you’ll be much better equipped to rebuild your marriage because you’ll have ongoing support and feedback in doing so.
You may also discover that your relationship with your wife becomes so stable and connected because of the work you do at Trust Builders Table that you don’t need regular couples therapy. Or you may simply be unable to afford it.
Whatever your situation, Trust Builders Table is for you, if you are a Christian husband who desires the learning, growth, and tools you need to actually rebuild your marriage after betrayal.
Please, in cases of serious health concers, abuse, or acute crisis, seek help from a licensed therapist within the particular field.
What if I feel overwhelmed and discouraged?
That’s a completely valid concern, and you’re probably going to feel discouraged once or twice during the rebuilding process. Let’s face it: it’s probably why you’re here in the first place.
The resources in Trust Builders Table is created to make the rebuilding process easier. What overwhelms or discourages most people isn’t doing the actual work or even encountering setbacks: it’s the weight of trying to rebuild without clear direction, support, or feedback.
Trust Builders Table gives you structure, tools, feedback, and encouragement, so you are not left wondering what to do when your wife is triggered, when you create distance through defensiveness, or when a sexual setback affects the trust-building process.
It’s normal to experience discouragement during a longer process. But you don’t have to be confused about what to do next. Trust Builders Table is here to provide you with the necessary guidance so you can continue moving forward.
Is Trust Builders Table a safe place for husbands?
Yes. Trust Builders Table is being built as a respectful, moderated, trauma-informed community for Christian husbands who want to rebuild trust after betrayal.
Because I am a woman leading a membership for men, I take the boundaries around this space very seriously. My role is to teach and guide with professional distance, and although I give personal feedback inside the member community, I do not have private one-on-one contact with members.
All social spaces in the community will be moderated, and the membership culture will be shaped around responsibility, biblical values and ethics, respect for wives, a non-objectifying view of women, and the kind of trust-building that supports sexual, relational, and emotional safety.
All content is developed with an understanding of betrayal trauma and the deep pain it causes in relationships. You won’t find advice here that minimizes the impact of betrayal or pushes for premature forgiveness or reconciliation.
Instead, the membership helps husbands take ownership of their actions and understand the pain they caused, and begin forming a trustworthy character from the inside out.
In fact, many betrayed wifes feel relief knowing that their husband is not just trying to improve behavior, but actually working through the emotional and mindset transformation needed to become trustworthy and emotionally connected.
If you are a betrayed partner, wondering if the membership is safe, you are welcome to email me. I will respond personally.
What do I get as a Founding Member?
As a Founding Member, you will get access to the same trust-building membership that will later open in the full launch: guided material, practical tools, community support, feedback, and monthly themes created to help Christian husbands rebuild trust after betrayal.
You will receive lower Founding Member pricing for as long as you remain a member, and you will have the opportunity to help shape the membership as it grows. That means you are not only joining early. You are helping build something meaningful that can serve other husbands and marriages facing betrayal in the future.
Founding Members will also receive a special bonus, which will be announced before enrollment opens. (I guarantee this: This bonus will never be offered again!)
When will Trust Builders Table open?
Trust Builders Table is planned to open for Founding Members during the summer.
I do not have a final launch date yet, but everyone on the waitlist will be the first to receive the opening date, enrollment details, Founding Member pricing, and information about the special Founding Member bonus.
If you want the invitation when the doors open, join the waitlist now.
to receive your founding member invitation.
If you have questions I didn’t answer here, feel welcome to write me an e-mail at anita@standingstrongproject.com.
